Shifting the Paradigm

 I am posting this blog a bit later but I still wanted to get it up before the day ended. Reading this article was really easy because I already read it a few weeks ago in my FNED class that I always have with Leslie. Reading it the first time was also easy to grasp but reading the second time I was even more familiar and immedietly thought of us reviewing the article in class. I agree with the asset model over the deficit model in a school system because it is a more positive and affective way of teaching/learning. Humans in general respind better to positive feedback rather than negative feedback, and I know I am more intrigued to put in effort when I am being cheered on. I feel as though kids respond better to this type of treatment, and you can see it in small day to day details. This example is a little different but when a baby who cant even talk yet falls down most of theroom gasps, the mom runs over with a dramatic reaction checking up on the now screaming child. In lots of cases, and even proven in tik tok trends, sometimes a child isnt reacting to pain but to the tone they were spoken in. I will paste a tik tok giving a visual example of what I mean. This article also believes this applies to learning or behavior. My first time reading this I compared it to the labeling theory, "The labeling theory is a perfect example of why we cannot put a spotlight on what is "wrong" or "bad" behavior by children. In this theory, it is expressed how the more you tell a kid they are deviant, the more the rest of the world and the child themselves will permanently believe it. When a negative trait about a child is drilled into their heads, it is likely that they will internalize this behavior. This can lead to secondary deviance, when a person acts out more deviant roles in order to confirm the label and fulfill that role. On the contrary, the more you tell someone, or even yourself, affirming thoughts, the more likely we are to believe those, too. I believe this from personal experience, as lately I have been practicing affirmations and reminding myself I am exactly who I think I am, not who others tell me I am. This applies to children, especially due to how much they are at a young age. "(from my FNED blog). This reading is a bit light and repetative but it is short enough and important to put into prespective. 

Here is a tik tok compilation of my example ( I guess this applies to pets too lol) https://www.tiktok.com/@wheninmanila/video/7387342333404122389?lang=en

Breathe

Before listening to the song Breathe I had oreviously heard of the musical In The Heigthts because some of the songs went viral on tik tok, but I never watched the film. Immedietly I noticed that I assumed I wasnt going to resonate with the song just because I dont typically watch musicals, but it turns out I did loosly relate to the song. Althouh I havent left home and came back, I have felt the fear of dissapointing my loved ones who I know expect success out of me. This isnt a forced or negative expectations, my family has just thought highly of me since a young age and as much as I admire this, it does instill a fear that I am not doing enough. Especially when I did not finish community college in the 2 years that I wanted to, causing me to start university late. I purposefuly didnt update them mcub and would avoid conversations about school so they would assume I was doing well, explaining to them why I am still in school is something I never wanted to face. However it was mostly in my head because my family still respects the education path I am taking. It is easy, at least for me, to feel I'm not doing enough and at the same time feel like your struggle is not recognized. 

Although not a piece of media, this reminds me of a real life connection I made with a stranger. This is so random but about a month ago I was getting my phone fixed by some guy who owned a technology repair store. Instead of just dropping my phone off I stayed and sat with him while he fixed my screen because he said it would only take about 20 minutes, although this time was extended due to our conversation. While telling me about himself he told me he is from Turkey and he came to America, specifically Boston, to go to college. His parents sent him and his brother with enough money to pay their tuition and livig expenses. Clearly they had lots of faith in their children to put that much money into their future. The guy fixing my phone never actually attended college and used to money to get further in his career in technology and now has multiple locations accross the east coast. This differs because his parents still to this day think he graduated because he took pictures in his friends gown. This goes to show even years later with much success, he is still is experiencing that fear of his parents knowing he didnt meet up to their expectations in the way they assumed. I told him he should tell them one day to see their reaction, maybe theyd still be proud?